Two weeks ago, my child caught a nasty bug and began exhibiting symptoms of a cold. The seasonal flu attacked him relentlessly, with a soaring fever, incessant cough, and a congested nose. We always fall victim to this persistent flu every time the weather turns colder than normal.
But this time, it was different, and I felt compelled to share with you the story that has been on my mind every day for the past two weeks. It was a restless night when his fever spiked, and I carefully measured out a dose of Tylenol syrup to soothe him. As he lay beside me on the bed, I could feel the warmth emanating from his body. Exhausted from the illness, he usually drifted off to sleep swiftly. But just ten seconds before succumbing to slumber, he uttered a heartfelt request.
“Mom, please talk to me.” I inquired, “What would you like me to say, my sweet?” His innocent eyes met mine as he pleaded:
Tell me how amazing I am and how much you love me.
It was during that moment that I fell in love with my son all over again, and it made me realize the significance of expressing words of love and appreciation to our children. The lack of visible interest autistic children display towards our emotions or the words of love we communicate to them is a common characteristic, or at least one that is not easily noticeable. Those are still heard by them despite that.
Offer Words of Affirmation
Even when it seems your child is not listening or does not understand, speak words of love and encouragement. Remind them of their strengths, abilities, and how cherished they are. Autistic or not, all children need reassurance.
Highlight small wins and milestones your child achieves, whether academic, behavioral or social. Noticing effort and improvements fosters motivation and self-confidence.
Convey Unconditional Acceptance
Frequently let your child know you love them as they are, no matter what. Make space for processing all emotions without judgment. Unconditional parental love provides comfort and emotional safety.
The words we speak become the inner dialogue of our children. Despite outward responses, our language penetrates deeply. So tell your child they are amazing. Tell them how very loved they are. The power of heartfelt words lasts a lifetime.